Hi Browneyes and Inbi,
I'd like to say Welcome and it's good to hear from the both of you. It's good to hear your input and, like Guy says, there are lots of threads about scalp p for you to read up on.
I've been there too with the old scalp ... blow drying is definitely a no-no but somehow the heat of almost burning it seems better than the relentless itch, huh?! For me it's a horrible and familiar cycle of (usually) stress, then itch, scratch, soreness, weeping/bleeding, reaction to anything at all that goes near it, etc etc. The best thing for me is lack of stress and being kind to myself in terms of eating well, drinking sensibly, avoiding chemicals, sleeping sensibly and doing the things that I've learned after 30 years are better for my skin. Along with lack of stress, Betnovate keeps the scalp under control (generally), coupled with Oilatum shampoo; Daktakort is my current cream for ears (although I've had just about every one on offer over the years).
My ears became so bad when I was doing my A levels (long, long ago!) that I suffered temporary deafness for months and years, and had regular visits to the ENT Hosp in Grays Inn Road (still managed to pass the A levels though - just!). Nowadays control is definitely the straw I clutch to - although controlling one area generally means a breakout somewhere - or of something - else.
Anyway, best of luck to you both. Stay around (the forum is going to be "off the air" for a couple of days from this Weds) and let us know how things go. There was a wonderful post somewhere on this forum recently from someone who had got so much better that he'd actually forgotten about us scabby lot!!! (Wonder if I'll ever get to that point!)
All the best,
Nicky