Mary ... I am going to have to send you away on a healthy retreat for some pampering & tlc

I think with the diet, its a case of trying to get back to the basics with food & getting rid of all the un-needed extras.
As for alternatives to chocolate ...
celery? :-/

Some chocolate - like Green & Blacks - is better than others, as it is free from hydrogenated oils & lower in sugar. Darker chocolate is also healthier & cocoa is very good for you!
Although you could just sprinkle the raw cocoa powder onto dried fruit.
I have done that on raisins & its pretty good

Not exactly snicker bar style but we are getting there

There are quite a few healthy type bars you can get but not supermarket brands as these are usually loaded with sugar.
If you try a health shop - they often sell a range of healthy snacks - traidcraft do nice chewy bars, also village bakery & a few other companies.
Have you ever tried halva? Thats nice.
Jade xx